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Marriage & familyAfter participating in the colloquium on marriage and family at the Vatican in Rome, Italy, for three days, and hearing many religious leaders from around the world, it was apparent to L. Tom Perry that good marriages and strong families are still important in our society, and highly desirable to most people.

When it comes to love of spouse and hopes, worries and dreams for children, we are all the same.

As many of you know I was married in July of last year.

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I was single for 4 years, and there were a lot of things that I needed to learn in that time.  The first I needed to learn was that I didn’t need a man to be okay with myself.  I needed to recognize that I am strong and independent on my own. I didn’t need a man in order to care for my children, or to financially support me.  Physically, I needed to know that I could do whatever needed to be done, by myself, so that I would not have to rely on a bad relationship, thinking I needed someone, anyone, in order to survive.

When I married Scott, it was because of something else that I learned. Men and women don’t need each other to survive emotionally or physically, but they are happier and better off in a committed relationship that is formed by marriage. It is like completing the building of a house. Four walls and a roof may make the house, but the beauty inside takes just a little bit more. A strong marriage and happy family create a more complete life.

Marriage is still the ideal and the hope among the majority of every age group.”  L. Tom Perry

Greater happiness is found, when working together for a greater cause. When you wake up each morning, and go to bed each night with the concerns of the happiness of someone special, beyond yourself, life becomes more meaningful.

New York Times columnist David Brooks said

People are not better off when they are given maximum personal freedom to do what they want. They’re better off when they are enshrouded in commitments that transcend personal choice – commitments to family, God, craft and country.”

I have always believed that the skills gained from compromise and cooperation that are required in marriage are skills that create greater growth in the individual, and set greater examples for children as they learn to deal with the world at large.  Of course, this requires a marriage between two people who care enough and are willing to work hard enough through their differences and to set good examples especially in front of the kids.  It really can be a lot of work to create this type of relationship, but this work is creating the best part of life.  To grow old with someone who loves you more than anyone, and will stay by your side, after the children have gone, after careers are put to bed, even after our physical bodies can’t keep up with the life they were used to, is the greatest gift I believe anyone could ask for in this life.  — Laura

Read more about the colloquium in this talk, by L. Tom Perry

My friends at “The Dating Divas” have some fun ideas to keep your marriage strong. Go check them out.

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