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A few weeks ago, we went to a bloggers conference in Salt Lake.  At the close of this event there was a “Gala” — awards banquet.  At first it was announced as a “Black Tie” affair.  My first thought was “WHAT!!!”  A bunch of bloggers who probably like me, work in their pajamas or yoga pants. They want us to dress up… I don’t even own anything like that.

Well…. as I’m one to never miss an event I’ve been invited to, (especially if there is a nice meal involved) I started looking for a dress.  My first instinct was to get something practical, that I could wear again.  I bought an average dress that I wasn’t really thrilled about, but I knew it would work.  However there was this really beautiful lace and sequined dress that I didn’t even dare to try on… although it really spoke to me and my style.

As we talked to other women who were going, we realized that it was going to be much more casual.  Most of the women were just going to wear something from their closets, maybe a nice dress.  Some came in just what they wore to the conference that day.  Some women didn’t come at all because they didn’t have anything to wear.  Lots of women making all different decisions about this event.

Then Susan called up and told me that she bought a formal dress that she just loved and it made her feel fabulous.  So what did that do for me?  It gave me permission to go get that fancy formal dress I really loved. . We knew we would probably be overdressed, and might be the only ones to get all fancy, but we were so happy and excited about it.  We had a friend come take pictures of us to celebrate.

with susan at gala

Laura and Susan showing our sparkle


Ohhhhh, I’m so glad that we did.  A few other women dressed up for this event and oh, they were glorious. It truly made the night special. These other fabulous women told us that they were grateful for our dressing up also. We each gave the others permission to feel beautiful in our “sparkle” as well.

One of my favorite quotes is from Marianne Williamson.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

This statement is so powerful, because it speaks to a truth that we all have within us.  “We are all meant to shine…it’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

We all have a “sparkle” inside of us, We have a talent or a message or a gift.  The most fortunate people are those who are able to live a life of expression of their talents and gifts.  Their lives are in sync with who they really are.  But what is really beautiful about this, is that we can all work to reach a place of peace, where we are living in harmony with who we really are.

It can be really scary to step out and share a big part of our selves with others.  And it is harder for some of us than for others.  My son Ethan knows what he loves to do, and he started his own youtube channel. He plays music for anyone who will listen, at school, scouts… anywhere. He will be preforming in a variety show at our church on Friday night. Being too afraid to share his talent is not even a question for him. He wants to do it, so he does it.

I love how brave he is.  I’m afraid I haven’t been that brave in my life, but watching his example and with the encouragement of my sister, I am learning to live up to my privilege, in writing this blog.  It is really scary to think about all the people that may be reading my words and what they might think of me, but I know that this is what I am supposed to do.  I’m stepping out and doing what I can, trying not to worry about haters, or critics. This is what will fulfill me, so I have to embrace it.

It can be hard in our very busy hectic lives to take the time to do the things that bring us the most satisfaction, but it can be done.

There may be other concerns that will try to stop you. Will our everyday responsibilities get in the way?

Do it anyway.  If it really means something to you, everything else will fall into place.  If your doing what makes you happy, there will be a way to get the other stuff done in your life.

What if people I know disapprove? There is always be someone who is a doubter.  They can often be speaking from a place of their own fear.  Don’t let fear of of what other people will think take away your joy and a chance to be fulfilled. Step out of your comfort zone and dare to shine.

Own your joy, own your talent, own your sparkle.



ps: What do you do that makes you feel fulfilled and happy?  What do you wish you could do, but haven’t gotten there yet? I would love to hear how you sparkle.


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